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Kristen Alexis Cave

To The Girl Who Needs Healing

To The Girl Who Needs Healing

We serve a God who is a healer. He’s a mender. A fixer upper. He is the only One capable of fully and completely healing our brokenness. And not only is He a capable Healer, but He is an unconditional Healer. We don’t have to prove anything to Him. We don’t have to earn His attention. We don’t have to clean up our wounds first before He sews them up. We just have to draw near to Him and be openhanded with our brokenness…be openhanded with our disappointment, our frustration, our anger, our confusion, our unmet expectations. And He will do the rest. But in order for the Lord to heal us, we must draw near to Him, even when it’s difficult.

Kristen CaveJune 29, 2020Healing, Pain, purpose in the pain, Heartbreak, disappointment, kristen alexis campComment

To The Girl Who's Fighting With Her Best Friend

To The Girl Who's Fighting With Her Best Friend

I’ve seen so many times where friends chose to walk away instead of fight for their friendship. They refused to forgive and in turn missed out on allowing God to redeem them and their circumstances. I know I’ve been through that with a few of my friends in the past. But I’m so happy to say that in this particular circumstance with me and Melanie, that just wasn’t the case.

I can trace so many blessings and wonderful memories back to my friendship with Mel. My life would have turned out so differently had I not only met Melanie, but also if we had not humbled ourselves so that God could redeem our friendship.

Kristen CaveMay 21, 2020friendship, friends, best friend, best friends, forgiveness, conflict, confrontation, relationships, kristen alexis campComment

To The Girl Whose Plans Are Different Than God's Plans

To The Girl Whose Plans Are Different Than God's Plans

I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was my first “big-girl job” — I wasn’t working at an ice cream shop anymore. I was the marketing assistant for a small business located down the road from where I was going to college. But I wasn’t just the marketing assistant. I was also the office custodian, which is absolutely hilarious if you know me personally. I hate cleaning. I hate it with a passion, and yet it had somehow become part of my job description. I was suddenly starting to miss the ice cream shop.

Kristen CaveMay 14, 2020faith, God, plans, planning, future, first job, intern, internship, God's plan, jeremiah 29:11, college, career, marriage, single, singleness, never say never, isaiah 55:8-9, kristen alexis campComment

The Best Advice My Mom Ever Gave Me

The Best Advice My Mom Ever Gave Me

As much as I desire to please my parents, and as much as I want them to agree with every decision I make, I've learned over the years that pleasing my parents is not my ultimate goal in life. That's not why I was put on this earth. No, I was created in the image of God to follow Jesus, obey His Word, love others the way He loves me, and carry out His will for my life. Pleasing my parents in doing so is just icing on the cake.

Kristen CaveMay 7, 2020mother's day, parenting, parents, people pleaser, God's will, leap of faith, faith, kristen alexis camp Comment

To The Girl Who's Having A Tough Time

To The Girl Who's Having A Tough Time

If I were to ask you, “What is something you’re struggling with right now?” how would you answer that question? Would you say you’re struggling with comparing yourself to the girl in your sorority who seems to have it all together?Would you say you’re struggling with navigating a difficult relationship with a family member? Would you say you’re struggling with feeling like a failure because you’re about to graduate and you have no idea what your next steps are?Would you say you’re struggling with being content in your singleness while watching your friends get engaged?Would you say you’re struggling with dealing with pain that’s affecting your physical or mental health?

Kristen CaveApril 30, 2020struggle, struggles, seasons, singleness, mental health, comparison, graduation, relationships, kristen alexis campComment

27 Things I'm Glad I Did Before Turning 27

27 Things I'm Glad I Did Before Turning 27

Last year for my birthday, I wrote a blog post called 26 Things I Learned Before Turning 26. I had so much fun writing that post, because it gave me the chance to look back on my life and reflect on what I’d learned and how I’d grown. So I thought, why not do something similar again this year? So since I turned 27 last week (yes, I’m officially in my late twenties now…insert crying emoji), here is a list of 27 things I’m glad I did before turning 27.

Kristen CaveApril 16, 2020birthday, 27 things, parents, friendship, tough seasons, maturity, kristen alexis camp Comment

To The Girl Who Doesn't Understand The Way God Is Working

To The Girl Who Doesn't Understand The Way God Is Working

To be honest, I had a very different idea for what this week’s blog post was going to cover. But I didn’t expect our world to be in this particular state right now (or ever), so I’m calling an audible.

I’m sure you’ve called your fair share of audibles over the last few weeks as well. Between keeping 6-feet away from other people, trying to find what you need at the grocery store, worrying about your employment status, and washing your hands 87 times a day, your life looks completely different than it did just a few weeks ago.

In times like this, it’s very easy to start asking, “What in the world is God up to?”

Kristen CaveApril 9, 2020COVID-19, Corona Virus, Understanding, Trust, Trusting, Proverbs, Proverbs 3:5-6, God's best, ParentsComment

What I Wish Someone Would Have Said To Me About My Singleness

What I Wish Someone Would Have Said To Me About My Singleness

I tossed and turned last night for hours thinking about writing this post. I didn't want Valentine's week to pass without giving you some sort of encouragement or hope in regards to what this week represents. But I also didn't want this to be just another article about surviving Valentine's Day being single. So last night as I was thinking and praying about what I was going to write, I came across a quote from one of my favorite bloggers. She said, "Be who you needed when you were younger." It was such a simple statement, but so profound at the same time. If we all took this advice, I truly believe the people coming up behind us would be a whole lot better off. They would feel encouraged where we felt discouraged. They would feel excited where we felt nervous. And they would feel hopeful where we felt hopeless.

Kristen CaveFebruary 13, 2020singleness, dating, single, relationships, relationship, lonely, loneliness, purpose, value, sovereignty, kristen alexis campComment

To The Girl Who's Scared To Take A Leap Of Faith

To The Girl Who's Scared To Take A Leap Of Faith

Not long after I had left my job, still not knowing where God had me headed next, I had another conversation with Thea. I was trying to process everything that was happening and at the same time trying to explain how at peace I was in the midst of so much uncertainty. Once again, Thea smiled and, through tears, said, "Kristen you're jumping with both feet, just like we've been talking about for months." I started tearing up at this point, but she kept going, "You need to remember the peace and the clarity you have at this moment, because there might be days when you're scared, and it feels like you're free falling. But I truly believe God is going to honor your faith and give you a soft landing."

Kristen CaveJanuary 15, 2020Faith, Trust, Leap of faith, Courage, kristen alexis campComment

When Your Circumstances Change, God Changes You Too

When Your Circumstances Change, God Changes You Too

Change is inevitable. Seasons come and go. People say hello and goodbye. And this time next year, there will probably be a lot of things about your life that won’t look the same. But if I was a betting woman, I’d say that this time next year, you probably won’t be the same either.

Kristen CaveDecember 31, 2019Change, faith, kristen alexis camp Comment

To The Girl Trying To Be Like Everyone Else

To The Girl Trying To Be Like Everyone Else

It happens a lot when I read books, blog posts, or instagram captions written by my favorite authors. I take in each word with so much wonder and admiration a little bit of envy sprinkled in. I think, “Wow, if I can just write like her, I’ll be good.” And so I try. I’ve tried changing my voice and my style, making the necessary adjustments so I sound like whoever I’m trying to mimic. But by the end of whatever I’ve written, I read back through the paragraphs and think, “This doesn’t sound like me.”

It’s the same feeling you get when you try on a piece of clothing in a store that doesn’t really match your style. Sure, it might be cute, and it might be trendy, but it’s not you. But you think if you wear it, people will notice you. People will like you. And people will admire you.

Kristen CaveNovember 20, 2019compare, comparison, comparing, competition, body image comparison, unique, uniqueness, instagram, insecurity, copy, faith, struggles, struggle, kristen alexis campComment

How To Believe God's Promises Even When You Don't Feel Like It

How To Believe God's Promises Even When You Don't Feel Like It

Have you ever come across pieces of encouragement when you’re hurting or disappointed, but the encouragement just wouldn’t sink in because you felt so crappy? Me too, girl. Me too. Dealing with your feelings is never easy. It can be so easy and so tempting to let our feelings overshadow what we know is true.

For instance, earlier this year I was sitting on my bed reading my Bible just a few short weeks after I went through a devastating breakup. As I sat there reading, I came across several verses that were perfectly applicable to what I was going through at that point. These bits of encouragement were exactly what I needed to hear. But instead of clinging to the promises in these verses, I was paying way more attention to my feelings.

To The Girl Who Thinks She's Too Young To Make A Difference

To The Girl Who Thinks She's Too Young To Make A Difference

The title of my speech was “No Age Limit Required.” I spoke about how God does not have an age limit when it comes to Him using someone for His glory. I talked about the importance of using the gifts and the talents He gave you at every age and stage of life. And I quoted Paul’s words to Timothy when he said, “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).

But if I’m being honest, as I sat in my room watching that speech now eight years removed from high school, I felt so guilty. I thought to myself, if at 18-years-old I could have that much confidence and conviction in saying your age shouldn't inhibit your ministry, why was I having such a hard time believing that to be true at age 26?

Kristen CaveNovember 6, 2019age limit, young, youth, ministry, writing, speaking, serving, in between, wisdom, maturity, obedience, kristen alexis campComment

What My Little Sister Taught Me About Setting An Example

What My Little Sister Taught Me About Setting An Example

If having younger siblings has taught me anything, it's that someone is always watching you. It might be your little brother or sister. It might be your friends. It might be your friends' kids. It might even be someone who follows you on social media. Regardless, people are watching how you live your life. They're taking note of how you treat other people, of the words you use (and don't use), of how you spend your time and resources, and how you follow Jesus.

5 Ways To Make Your Friendships Thrive

5 Ways To Make Your Friendships Thrive

Friendships are just like any relationship in that they take both people investing and pouring into the friendship to make it work. I’m sure somewhere on Pinterest there is a forever-long list of things you should do to ensure you’ll have great friendships. But I just want to talk about five specific ways to be a good friend that I’ve seen work in my own life. I firmly believe that in doing these five things, you will not only be a fantastic friend, but your friendships will thrive for years to come.

Kristen CaveOctober 18, 2019relationship, relationships, friend, friendship, friends, best friend, honesty, advice, questions, support, envy, accountable, accountability, kristen alexis campComment

To The Girl With The Broken Heart

To The Girl With The Broken Heart

Getting your heart broken can feel like you got the wind knocked out of you, like a sudden blow you didn’t see coming that instantly makes you unable to catch your breath. Initially, the impact of heartbreak is disorienting and confusing. You start asking yourself questions like, “How did this happen?”, “What did I do to deserve this?”, and my very favorite “What am I going to do now?” You question your worth. You question your identity, and you question your future, realizing your life just changed in a matter of minutes and you never saw it coming.

Kristen CaveOctober 8, 2019struggle, struggles, frustrated, heartbroken, heartbreak, sad, sadness, grief, disappointment, disappointed, kristen alexis camp, hurt, pain, Psalm, Psalms, Psalm 147:3, relationships, relationship, breakup, college, career, job lossComment

To The Girl Feeling Tempted To Settle

To The Girl Feeling Tempted To Settle

Waiting sucks.

But I don’t have to tell you that. I feel like that statement is just a universal truth. We don’t like waiting for anything, especially when it’s something we really, really want. We would just prefer for God to move at the same speed as a fast food drive-thru. Better yet, if He could go as fast as the Jimmy John’s delivery guys, that would be ideal.

Kristen CaveJune 26, 2019wait, waiting, patience, settle, settling, don't settle, to the girl, wisdom, common sense, cars, dream car, dream, dreams, Mustang, Ford Mustang, PT Cruiser, parents, struggles, struggle, kristen alexis camp Comment

4 Tips For Navigating Long Distance Friendships

4 Tips For Navigating Long Distance Friendships

For this week’s post, I have a very special treat for you! My best friend of 14 years, Melanie Hobson, is dropping in as a guest writer, and I couldn’t be more excited! Not only is Melanie my closest friend, she is also one of the godliest, wisest, and most wonderful people I know. My growth as a follower of Christ, as a friend, and as a human being in general has been impacted so much by her influence. So I wanted her to have the opportunity to influence and encourage you just like she so often does for me! I hope you enjoy her post as she talks through 4 tips for navigating long distance friendships. Enjoy!

Kristen CaveJune 3, 2019relationships, relationship, friend, friendship, friends, long distance, distance, marriage, future husband, wife, conversation, confrontation, kristen alexis campComment

To The Girl Who's Questioning Her Calling

To The Girl Who's Questioning Her Calling

I do realize that it’s not always easy to follow the calling God has given you. Maybe you feel like your calling isn’t practical and that it’s too farfetched. Maybe you feel like you're not as equipped as you could be to pursue your calling. Or maybe you think you just don’t have enough time with everything else you have going on. If any of those hesitations are going through your mind, let me ask you a question. Do you want to get to the end of your life and realize you never pursued the calling God gave you because you were afraid, worried, and insecure? Or even worse, do you want to realize you didn’t go after your calling because someone else talked you out of it?

Kristen CaveMay 29, 2019in between, graduate, graduation, calling, career, doubt, insecurity, courage, bravery, college, college grad, post college, kristen alexis campComment